This
may sound like a political slogan, some kind of radical idea, a
rebellious opposition of some sort.
What
this is, actually, is all about YOU! And me, and all of us who think
that tolerance is a virtue.
Tolerance
and acceptance is commonly thought to be the same thing. It's a
misunderstanding, in my way of seeing it.
Acceptance
is divine; it's the awareness that it's time to stop fighting what
you cannot change; and be okay with that.
Tolerance
is not a divine acceptance; it's more like a self-imposed acceptance,
which usually comes with sorrow. It feels like the end of the line;
we have no other way out and because we "accept" our
suffering so well, we expect praise and sympathy.
Most
of us have lots of practice in tolerating, but not much in accepting
things for what they are. The result, for what I have noticed, is
unfulfilled lives, negative and unproductive habits, unhappy and sick
people.
Then
comes zero tolerance. What will happen if we don't tolerate things
anymore? Wars? Catastrophes? Battles? Separation? Disorder?
Of
course not!
Zero
tolerance eventually leads to change. Zero tolerance sparkles
creativity. Creation breeds positive thoughts and habits, which
birth harmonious and happy lives.
When we stop tolerating, we find out better ways to go.
Let's
get to the root of this thought. How long have you been tolerating
things you don't like or want for your life? People, traffic, your
work, a worn out relationship perhaps, a life style that you don't
enjoy, the global crises – your personal crises, even! Eventually,
you get to a point that you are so accustomed to all that frustration
that you don't even feel it anymore. You just keep going, and
complaining, of course; but going. Feeling that you were born to
suffer, or that is all normal, after all this is what life is all
about. Isn't that what we have been told since we were born? Life is
hard.
And
so believing, you don't change your routes nor your destination. You
don't dare to try, to move in another direction, to stop what you
don't like experiencing. You just become so complacent and agreeable,
that a more beautiful life escapes from you and you don't even realize it.
That
state does
not
ignite
any creativity or will to change, because you are
comfortably
tolerating it. But
if you stop tolerating situations that you can actually change, new
and
positive patterns
will
be immediately created.
When you
consciously, by your own choice, stop
the
suffering routine (mental suffering, primarily) favorable
and
productive habits take place. Then is when you realize you can
recreate your story.
You
must start it
at once if
you really
want
to change what you don't like in your life. Be it your hair, your
weight, your bank account, your work, your
health, your
relationship with others or with yourself. Be
aware, though, that things will only change when you truly change
your state of mind (from passive martyr to creative doer). You
MUST stop tolerating things and you must look for creative
alternatives – they are all there, dancing
in front of you. But you can only see them when you stop tolerating
and
embracing the
unfavorable situations. This
is the starting point.
Then, what's next? It's time to own your inner power. It's time to dismiss
old patterns and beliefs that are represented through your thoughts
and words. So, change them. Observe your thoughts: are they permeated
with "poor-me" feelings? Self-pity, anger, frustration,
fear, disbelief in a better tomorrow, apathy, sensation that
everything is meaningless... all these and more are unproductive
states. And they let you down and
bring you back to tolerating
everything. To change that state of stuckness, acknowledge those feelings and
sensations and say to
yourself, with
intention, "Stop! I no longer need to feel
these feelings and tolerate
this situation!
I
can do better than that!"
And
so you have
taken the
firsts
steps:
stopped tolerance and stuckness, and recognized
your feeling patterns.
Now observe your words. Are they congruent with the new pattern of
thoughts and feelings? If not, they need adjustments, too. When you
are ready to say in the morning, "Shit! It's raining again!"
just observe yourself first, and instead of saying it out of a habit,
just don't. If you can't yet say anything that sounds better than
that, simply don't say anything. More
pleasant words will come with time. For now, just
dismiss that angry thought. Recognize it, and without judgment just
say goodbye. Let it go. And the words will go along.
Changing
thought and word patterns
is the foundation
for constructing favorable
habits. Observe how
smoothly things
will start changing from
that point on.
You will become stronger, more confident and creative to change those
situations you once thought you had to tolerate. All because you
chose and decided to say no to the unpleasant and say yes to
creative,
loving, and life-changing thoughts.
Yes,
you can be the change you want to see. Start being
it right
now!
Rose
T.